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“When you don’t dress like everybody else you don’t have to think like everybody else”

- Iris Apfel -

The Professor of Psychology at the Stanford University, Carol Dweck known for her powerful Theory of the Two Mindsets confirms the assumption that “all our most basics beliefs – conscious and subconscious - strongly affect what we want and whether we succeed in getting it”.

In few words: a fixed mindset with a deterministic view of the world will affect your potential results when a growth mindset will push you to embrace challenges and give you self-confidence built on hard work and determination.

This means that your mindset affects your personal success and consciously or subconsciously your personal style - the messages you send to others through your clothes and body language.

In this same current, another renowned American psychologist and professor at the Wharton School of the University Pennsylvania, Adam Grant inspired many students and people by just affirming that “to be original you don’t have to be first. You just have to be different and better”.

In one of his popular TED speeches “The surprising habits of original thinkers” in 2016, Professor Adam explained in a very powerful way how the mindset can affect the results especially during our creative process:

You can be in doubt about your ideas (This is crap) but not about yourself (I am crap) as “the greatest original are the ones who fail the most because they are the ones who try the most”.


1. Do one thing a day that scares you

Everyday perform a new task you’ve never done before at work or talk with a colleague you don’t necessarily like. Do something that is outside of your comfort zone. This will constrain your mind to work in a different way and acquire new skills.

2. Wear colours that you never wore before

The power of colour is undeniable and can affect your mood, your first impressions and give clear messages to people around you. Challenge yourself with different hues of the colours you usually wear.

3. Listen your employees, colleagues and clients carefully

Information is power - the more you listen the more you can acquire useful information for achieving your goals and this will automatically expand your mindset and options for solutions. This statement is particularly true for demanding clients, colleagues, employees or partners. When you don’t know how to reply listen more and pay more attention to words used, tone of voice and body language. They are subtle cues that could help you with how to reply and approach people in any given situation.